This post was inspired by Krysta’s @pagesunbound amazing post about the unwritten rules of the blogosphere (she always has the best discussions!) she raised a lot of interesting questions I would like to address a few of them. Mostly the ones about book bloggers being careful not to be seen as argumentative and about the niceness of the community.
Are book bloggers too nice?
I think book blogger are definitely too nice, yes it’s good to be nice in fact it’s the best thing anyone can be and generally it’s better to be too nice then not nice enough most everyone on here is so kind. I have never gotten a mean comment this community is amazing every single person who I have talked to is lovely. I’m sure there are rude book bloggers because there is always going to be those people who are rude for no reason and love to start drama. What I mean by the community being too nice is that it seems people are scared of hurting others feeling so they word their different or negative opinion very carefully or don’t say it at all. And this brings me to my next question…
Are we missing out on interesting conversations, because we’re afraid of being argumentative?
I have noticed that the majority of the comments I receive are in complete agreement, I would love to receive more comments from people who have a completely different opinion then me. I love seeing people’s different thoughts on books or various topics that’s part of why I love blogging. I think that by being afraid of coming across as argumentative were missing out on interesting conversations, were too concerned about being respectful of people’s opinions. Being respectful of people’s opinions is important but being respectful doesn’t mean you can’t share your differing opinion it just means not to tell them their opinion is invalid.
Are we too afraid of sharing unpopular/negative opinions?
Sometimes it feels like the whole internet loves this one book and then you read it and are sure you didn’t read the same book no way is this awful book the same one everyone else loves but somehow it is you say nothing though for fear of backlash. We read the popular books because we want to be able to join in on conversations about it but if you don’t like the book it feels like your all alone your not there’s someone out there who feels the same way. When someone does share a unpopular opinion they often apologize but you really do not have to apologize for not liking something it should be understood that it’s an opinion and not a fact some people get them mixed up and it’s aggravating.
We need to stop caring quite so much about offending people as long as you don’t insult them or the book they love then you’re not doing anything wrong. Of course if you didn’t like a book then sharing your opinion might be considered insulting the book but remember that there is a difference between saying “I didn’t like this book because…” and saying “This book is a load of crap how could anyone like it.” you can disagree with someone and not be rude about it. I think some people are too defensive we should be able to talk about harmful and problematic things without people becoming unreasonably defensive about their favorite book. You can love something and still acknowledge that it’s not perfect.
What do you think? Is there anything else you think the book community needs to improve upon?